Went to bed with high hopes that i might finally surrender to fatigue and the soporific outcomes of a hearty dinner. Guess i was wrong. Throbbing behind my eyeballs and the relentless tossing and turnings wouldn't let me.. Imprecating my conditions didn't do me any good either. So i did what i always do best...
Decmeber 14.. Memories were flooding back uncontrollably, as vivid as yesterday even a year later..
Forgive and forget they say... when its just easier to hate her..
I will forgive for its only human for him/her to err ... but i will not forget for putting these issues behind me will not protect me from recurrences in the future.
I will forgive to let him/her know that i hold no grudges... but i will not forget for i will make references to this event if the argument calls for it.
Iwill forgive for it is divine .... but i will not forget for i am just a human....
Selfish? Immature? Really? I merely mentioned out what everyone does... even the most noble will practice what i mentioned to a certain degree. I will say that its impossible to forget for we are all experiential learners
How can one forget the day the partner called for a break off... Even if he or she was to come back in all promises and potentials... Whats the guarantee that, that which happened once would not happen again?
How does one forget the day that he or she found out that the spouse was cheating? You may be able to forgive... but will you ever forget?
How does the abused child forget the thrashing he/she got from his/her parents?
How does a rape victim forget the torment she endured? she may be able to forgive but forget? I doubt so.
How does one forget being burned by love for the first time?
Get my drift? So how is it possible to forget? Does simply not mentioning the incident constitute to forgetting? If thats the case, then we are all hypocrites who intend one thing and say something else. Simply put, just think of all the times you got hurt and almost instantaneously you will be able to remember every detail of what happened to you. Now, does the phrase forgive and forget hold any relevance ?
10 comments:
I agree with you totally. One can forgive but not forget. When I said this to people around me last time, all I got was a cynical look from people; like I've done or said something super wrong! I mean, why can't they accept that forgetting something that has been etched deeply, IS a hard thing to do? The scar is still there and scars don't just disappear like that. The important thing here is that we forgive people who have hurt us in one way or another. Sometimes, I can forgive but not forget. It will always be there, back in my head.
well, if you forgive , you are letting go not as a duty but the tastes of the bitterness, failures and hurts etc etc. so yeah,then forgetting will never be an issue.
of course its easier said than done. its divine as you said my friend. =)
well i'll be around if ever you need to come to this point that you need me. haha. smile. =)
seeker: same sentiments but i have ceased using that phrase for i realised tat i become a hypocrite when i do use it...
Abin: hei emo... i know u will be there for me when i need u .. really i do. just that not sure if its for consolation or a war.. haha anyway thanks bro..
eh you seek your consolation elsewhere, you need to be really really really really desperate to come to the bottom of your list
.hahaha
come to me for war! but you need to be on the correct side.
eh your previous post, the vids..aha..i remember the linkin park 1..where we were watching it the first time on level 6 com lab.thats before they got really huge
and...apologize.hrmm..timbaland does like nothing in this cover. except shake around waviing his hand. quite cool.
if you want something different to listen to, come and find me!!
laughter is good, you live longer (supposedly)
ya man watching the linkin park vid brings back memories... haha u see even u didnt forget ..
It takes great courage to forgive and totally agree that it is impossible to forget.
A scar is a mark left from injury that can never be erased.
No matter how trival the bad experience is, we can never forget how pain was inflicted on us, physically, metally or emotionally.
Many times...
Despite claiming that we have forgiven the person who have hurt us, we haven't.
As you have mentioned that we will make references to the event if an argument calls for it.
Deep down inside us, we still feel that injustice had been done and we don't deserve the way we are treated.
The difference between scar and grudge is the presence/absence of anger.
When we get angry with the person, we start bringing up the past, we attempt to make the other party guilty. It hence becomes no different from an outburst resulting from grudge.
yup... agree with ur point too slacka.. and u mentioned a cool point abt the grudge and scars.. somethin to think abt
Forgiving is indeed godly.But forgetting?? I think it's important not to forget anything at all. Good or bad- well it doesnt matter. One shud nv forget important lessons learnt in life. Or else there would be no point in living cos u gonna repeat mistakes. Once bitten twice shy. As for love, nothing which falls remotely in that category can be forgotten easily or even forgotten at all. I've been there. But life goes on. Take it easy and god bless!
it is truly divine to forget, no doubt abt it but we being humans will always fail to (nt that we can be blaimed for it) the more we forgive, the closer we get to god.
I think the most impt thing is nt to forget abt the whole thing, but to learn the lesson and take great care to ensure that we do not hurt anyone in the same manner that the person did. not even the person who was the reason for the hurt.
no doubt such instances can be used during arguments, but y would u want to remind urself and the other part abt it again. i'm no saint, but i tink sometimes it makes me happier when i forget (or almost do). cos such feelings jus create unhappiness.
You are willing to forgive and not forget! Looks like you have marked 14 December for an event in your life, or for life...
You really write well!
Keep posting.
Post a Comment